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This week, we went into Wholeness. Here are the slides… uprising 9 wholeness
Perspective has so much to do with how we engage and deal with life. It is actually a compass to tell you where you are on the spectrum between wholeness and brokenness. If you have the tendency to be a pessimist, it probably indicates you have some soul damage. It’s a reflection of your soul’s condition.
The optimist deals with the same circumstances but as a result of his wholeness, his perspective on life comes from the optimistic vantage point. It’s a contrast between despair and hope.
Broken people tend to be takers/receivers. Whole people tend to be givers. No one is 100% one way and 0% the other. We’re all takers to some degree. But some of us have disappointments and we haven’t properly dealt with wound (i.e. you just bandaged it over without cleaning it). Some of us have become bitter. We harbor resentments and deep hurt and the more we do this, the more we shift the spectrum towards being a taker.
It is a diabolical, self-fulfilling prophesy – people hurt you, disappoint you and the more they do, the more you see it and then, the more inwardly, “me” focused you get. You shift your mind/heart from a spirit of giving and pouring into others and into a stance of “people are there to meet my needs, fill me up and when they don’t, I get even more hurt, more disappointed.” It’s a dangerous cycle. We take and take until we run off all those around us. As more and more people abandon us, we get trapped in brokenness. We get bitter. Bitter feels safe. We feel justified but it’s a trap. It really is like just putting a bandage on a wound without first medicating and cleaning the wound. Eventually, that wound is going to fester and show back up as an even bigger problem.
Go back and read Galatians 5:19 and contrast that with the Fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5:22. In 5:19 you’ll see that all those actions – greed, envy, lust, etc. – listed are actions of the “taker” whereas the Fruits of the Spirit – love, patience, gentleness, self-control, etc. – are actions of the giver.
Where are you? How’s your heart? You know what you’re called to be – Galatians 5:22. Those are characteristics of a healthy, whole soul. How’s your soul? Are you bitter? Do others constantly disappoint? Are you frequently let down by others? This may indicate you’re harboring some resentment and bitterness. These things divide you. You are no longer integrated. There’s work to do.
The whole person has an entirely different mind-set. He is amazed at how people tend to come through. He sees the positive in people. Life is good even with its hurts. He sees beauty in nature. He doesn’t look to others to provide his happiness and, is instead, a source of happiness for others.
Do you see the difference? Is your life sucking happiness from all those around you? Or, are you a source of happiness to those you most deeply care about. It truly is better to give than receive.
If you’re struggling with these things, it is time to come clean. It’s time to address the bitterness, the wounds, the long-held resentments towards others and the pain of the disappointments in your life. God’s design for you is that you would be whole and integrated. He wants to restore you. He wants to fully restore you. Healing is there for the taking but you have to be honest here. You have to open the wound, clean it and be vulnerable to what you might hear.
Keep your heart in Galatians 5:22. Keep striving to LiveUP!