A few of you have asked about theses videos. They aren’t on the website but you can buy the DVDs. Here is a link to the videos filmed with the small groups…
Here is a link to the 5-part sermon series (including the one we saw this morning)…
Aren’t you tired of being mad all the time? It’s such a weary way to live. Aren’t you tired of holding onto that grudge you’ve held so long? Today, you can let it go and trust God with the outcome. The moment you do, you are free, and the giant of anger can fall.
Imagine how powerful it would be to release the mission you carry of righting every wrong.
What if you instead trusted God, let Him handle all the details and you believed in forgiveness and you extended forgiveness?
As believers, it is imperative that we live in the finished work of Jesus. We must not allow the enemy to gain a foothold in our lives – something that looks small on the front-end but 5-10-15 years later, you discover a giant living in the middle of the room. We accommodate that thing and don’t let God take it down.
Anger must fall because God wants you free from this demoralizing giant. God wants glory in our lives by showing the world He is bigger than anything we face.
Anger is a giant that can shut down God’s possibilities in our lives. If we’re not careful, our anger can burn someone else’s life down. It will definitely burn your life down.
Angry people always look to tear down others. Eliab belittled David. No protection for his little brother. No “I’ve got your back”. Instead, he rips David, belittles him and questions his heart. He challenges his character. When you make character assassinations, you’re tipping your hand as to what is in your heart. God looked at Eliab and said his heart was not good. Eliab’s anger burned. Rejection. Not getting picked is one of the huge roots of anger in our lives.
Underneath anger many times is betrayal or belittlement. Betrayal is real and breeds jealousy. Jealousy is a tough thing to carry. It forces us to compare and compete. It silences us from celebrating and affirming. If we live in families that compare and compete and can’t celebrate and affirm, we live in war because the giant of anger is lurking in the room.
A lot of our anger traces back to our parents. If you’re angry, it might have to do with your parents. He abandoned me. He was/is uninterested in me. He picked someone else over me. He hurt me. He was emotionally unavailable to me. He left our family. He cheated on us – not just Mom – but he cheated on all of us. He didn’t take care of us. He didn’t take care of himself. He won’t face the facts. He’s too aggressive. Too passive. He’s gone all the time. I’m mad at Mom for putting so much stress on my Dad. I’m mad at her for hounding him. I’m angry for the things he’s said to me – or – the things he never said to me. I’m angry because I was never good enough for him.
Your anger can go back to parents who betrayed or belittled you. But, we need to remember, Jesus has killed this giant of anger. It may still be talking, still able to inject poison but Jesus has finished the battle.
When Louie read that list of reasons we might be angry, the room this morning grew very silent. Many of us have powerfully felt or still profoundly feel these emotions. This isn’t an exercise of blaming our parents. Instead, it is a rational realization that family wounds are real and potent. Many of us denied those or stuffed them down to attempt getting on with our lives and today, we find ourselves raging with anger ourselves and we question, “where did this come from?” Push into this. It is time for this giant to fall. The collateral damage you can inflict on others you love is too costly to ignore this. It’s time to forgive those who wronged you and pick up the responsibility of changing the narrative of your story.
What is the first step? Remember …
Anger is refusing to see our own weakness and instead we focus on another’s weakness. At the Cross, I see how God resolved His righteous anger towards us.
“They really did me wrong” – yeah, but I first wronged God.
“They really did abandon me” – yeah, but I first abandoned God.
“They threw it in my face” – yeah, but I threw it in God’s face.
I can no longer blame others for my sin. Long before anyone wronged me, I turned my back on God. And yet … and yet … He continually pursued me. God loved me enough to rescue me despite my worship of other idols. Jesus came and paid it all for me. It’s time for me to take my anger and lay it at the foot of the Cross. I’m free and forgiven. It’s time to forgive and free others and let God be God.