Dealing with this giant of anger comes back to forgiveness. Forgiveness is an act of surrendering. An act of letting go of control, letting go of “I must fix this”. It is surrendering them and the pain they caused you to God, so He can deal with it. Yes, they wronged me. Yes, I was betrayed. Yes, it was wrong … but … it’s on me to forgive. Long before anyone betrayed or belittled me, I betrayed and belittled God. And I’m forgiven! So, the person who has been forgiven much has much room to forgive others.
Ephesians 4:25-26 – “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. ‘In your anger do not sin’; do not let the sun go down while you’re still angry.”
You’ve got to let the anger go. You’ve got to let God shift the tide of your heart. The choice is yours. You can continue to carry the anger and let it eat you up – or – today, right now, you can begin the process of releasing that other person. Release the resentment. Release the burden from your back, and the way it is released is through forgiveness.
Turn to the Lord and say, “God, by the grace of Jesus, I want you to know I forgive this person. You forgave me. I forgive them. I can’t hold against this person more than what you chose not to hold against me.”
Even if they don’t want to hear it, forgive them. When you forgive, you’re releasing yourself. When you do, the giants stop taunting.
Forgiveness is a process – not a “one and done”. That relationship may never be restored. It may require boundaries. That’s OK. But still forgive them.
When you lie down tonight, you want to sleep in peace in the shadow of the Cross. You don’t want to carry anger one more day. Lie down tonight and say, “Lord, I hold no grudges against anyone, because You hold no grudges against me.” In that moment you forgive, the devil has no foothold.
It all this starts and ends with surrendering. The anger that rages in you, the anger at your Dad, all the things he said to you or never said to you, the anger at your brother, the anger at your business partner or your ex-wife. The anger at your child who turned from you and blamed you for all their problems. This giant of anger MUST fall. It’s eating you alive.
You need to forgive but first, you must surrender.
Believing is one thing. Surrendering is harder. If you believe God loves you and He longs for you to know His love, what would ever hold you back from surrendering? Usually it is because, “I want to keep my freedom”.
God – “Really?”
Me – “Yes, my life is shipwreck, but I want to keep my life, keep my control.”
God – “You want to keep the life you have instead of receiving the life I have for you? So, your life is a wreck. Look inside your soul. Look at the emptiness. Look at the brokenness. Look at the loneliness and despair. Look at the pain and the hurt. Look at the wounds inside. You want to keep that? If you will give me that, I will give you hope and faith. I’ll give you strength and courage. I’ll pour love and life inside you.”
It’s still not easy. Dead men are afraid of death. Surrendering looks like death but it is life. Jesus came to end the pain of death and to begin the reign of life. Anger eats you alive. Freedom comes by forgiving them, letting them go to God and releasing your hold of trying to fix the past pain. LET IT GO. Let God do what only God can do.