here are the slides from today > Which Kingdom 5 – build what you love
here is Erwin McManus’ talk on “you build what you love” – the video clip I showed started at 8:10 and ended at 20:33 >
This 12 minutes goes right at the core question of this fall and that is, Which Kingdom will I serve? A good friend asked me what has become a poignant question a while back of “where is this abundant life Jesus talked about?” Yes! Amen! Thanks for asking it. We all need to ask it? Where is it?
As McManus subtly points out, the answer can be found in what you believe to be abundance. Where is it? Where are you looking for it? Are you looking for affirmation? Acceptance? An abundant sex life? An abundant bank account? A bigger home, nicer car and extravagant vacations? Is abundance children who cause no problems, excel in the classroom and on the ball field, get great jobs and marry well?
If this is the abundance you seek, you’re not going to find lasting abundance in any of it. You’re looking in the wrong place and you’re answering the ultimate question of “Which kingdom will I serve?”
McManus doesn’t talk specifically about all that but it is the subtle undercurrent. He says the following…
Some of us love things more than we love people. So, we spend more time with the things than the people closest to us. You are creating a life through the choices you are making.
David forgot what made him famous and was instead, just focused on his fame.
We go looking for advice/counsel and if we don’t like what we hear, we go ask someone else. We’ll keep asking until someone finally agrees with us! You’re not looking for advice, you’re looking for agreement.
A lot of the decisions and choices we make look so superficial when in reality, they have deep substance to them. The consequences of our choices don’t just affect the person making the choice.
The relationships in your life are the material with which you will build what you love. If you have no relationships, if it is all about you, you will build by yourself for yourself. (which kingdom?)
God had given you the incredible ability to impact others for better or worse. David’s choices impacted an entire kingdom. Many of us want more influence but we don’t more responsibility. But, that’s not how God does it. For every person in my life, I am accountable for my effect and impact on their life. This is not what we want – we want to pretend that our choices and decisions are isolated and disconnected from everyone else.
People with addictions, before they own their addictions, what you hear them saying is “my choices aren’t hurting anyone but myself”. The problem is, that is never true. You’re actually hurting the person you’re saying it to. You’re wanting to deny the impact of your choices, but you never make an isolated decision. Everything you do, impacts someone else.
David was not trustworthy with the relationships he’d been entrusted with and there was a consequence to his choices.
Question – for the people in your life, is it safe for them to live in the universe of your love? Is it safe for them to care about you?
The contra of all this is also true – that if I am broken and they love me that it can actually make me a better person. You see, out of your life, you can pour into someone else hope, pour into them compassion, pour into them forgiveness and pour into them meaning. (you cannot do this if you’re curved inward on yourself. you can only do this is you’re living Excurvatus – outwardly, for others)
Key Question – Who do you love enough to change for?
Many times, we don’t find the strength to change because we don’t love anyone more than we love ourselves. Make the decision to love your wife more than you love yourself – to love your children more than you love yourself. It will change the trajectory of your life.
When people are only in love with themselves, they make the most destructive choices. But when someone loves another person more, it changes the way they choose.
Who do you love enough to change for? What needs to change?