Here is the video. We started at about 24 minutes in…
A man after God’s own heart.
It’s OK to be a man and still have a heart. You can be tough on the outside and tough mentally and tough about the things you set your mind to and to still be sensitive to the things going on around you and shed a tear every now and then.
David was a musician, brave, warrior, gifted speaker, Lord was with him, rancher, leader, bold, crack shot, poet, good looks, dancer but we also know he was easily distracted by temptation. He was tempted to decisions that would be massively detrimental to his life.
You can be a man’s man and have your life summed up as a “man after God’s own heart”.
You can be a skilled fighter, but you must know when to fight and when not to fight.
Fighting is a man’s DNA. Fighting brothers. Wrestling Dad. Football. Fighting to win business. It’s our nature to fight but we’ve got to know when to fight or else we can risk gaining the whole world and forfeiting our soul.
When the conflict arises, do I deflect, or do I say, “I’m sorry”?
It’s hard for us. We’re sinful, proud, stubborn, arrogant fighters. So, it’s hard to say, “I’m sorry” because that phrase brings with it a freight train of other things i.e. “I’m not right about everything”, “I’m not right about this thing” or because I reacted this way to this, it shows there is something deep inside that just isn’t wired right.
We must know when and where to fight. We will fight – no question – but to have it said about us, “he was a man after God’s own heart”, we’re going to have to know “when” to fight.
Some of us are still fighting with our Dads. We fight against him daily even if he’s not around or no longer living. You’re fighting that “thing” stuck between you and him.
Some of us are still fighting against a wrong in our past – a decision made, an unfair situation, something that wrongly went against us.
We’re fighting against what we can’t resolve, or we fight for things that ultimately won’t satisfy us. We fight for success and fame. They don’t satisfy. Money doesn’t. Winning the deal, having your name on the building, being first, being best, being most powerful … they don’t satisfy a heart that was made for God.
How can we be men who can have it said about us that we were men after God’s own heart?
How can we know when to fight and what to fight for?
It happens when we move out of isolation and insulation and we move into relationship with other men for the purpose of achieving the ultimate win which is being a man after God’s own heart.
Isolation is a chief skill of men – we’ve perfected it. Insulation = nobody is getting to me.
I can’t do this alone or at least, I know I’m not getting the amazing outcome I sought doing it in isolation and insulated from others, so I need help to do this.
Fight Club = contending for what matters most. It’s not what we’re fighting against but rather what we are fighting for.
Paul said (2 Timothy 4:7), “I’ve fought the good fight”. I’ve contended for the right things in the right way and I’ve gained them. I didn’t just fight fights, I fought the good fight. I’ve finished the race, kept the faith.
The question we seek to dodge with our isolation and insulation is “How are you doing?”. That deep, at the core, no-BS question – cut through the pose, the “I’m great” answer and peel back the layers and expose the real answer … how are you really doing?
Fight Club intends to fight for 4 key areas
- My walk with God – am I fighting for my walk as much as I fight for my career, my workouts, my hunting, my yard?
- My heart and my character
- My family – fight for my wife, not with her. Fight for my kids. My dad. Will I stand up and be the spiritual leader of my home? Yes or no?
- My brothers – will I get into what he is fighting against and get up in his face over it?
I’m going to fight for the disadvantaged and for those who cannot fight for themselves. I’m not going to live a self-focused life, a self-serving life, stacking up what I need, isolating and insulating myself from what I don’t want to feel. I’m not going to do all these things chasing after a false prize I think will satisfy my life.
The enemy wants you to fail in all 4 of these areas. So, you need a fight club around you that knows the real you, the honest you, not the church-answer you. You need men around you where it is safe for you to say, “You know, I am not doing well”.
You have a heart. Peel back the layers of isolation and insulation until you can get to where you know you’re a son of God. Feelings, hurts, anguish, loss, anger, etc. are all stuffed down deep – we’ve got to peel those back to get to the covered-over heart, so you can know God at a heart to heart level.
Fighters that we are, real men and all that, we cannot approach God on a strength to strength basis. It’s only on the heart-to-heart level where we can be fathered by God.