Fight Club – this is how we fight

here are the slides from this morning … Which Kingdom 13 – fight club 3

here is the video – we started at 13 minutes into the talk …

When you play football, you understand what fight club is all about.  You’re out of the stands.  You’re committed.  You have invested and sacrificed.  And you’re extraordinarily vulnerable because every play, every move, every block is graded and evaluated in the open.

It is completely different than the people sitting in section 304.

It can be like that in church – we can sit in church, watch from a distance, know 3-4 guys who seem to be Jesus guys and worship at a distance – or – we could get on the field, get some guys of our own, make the commitment and say, “I don’t want to be a spectator, I want to be a participant in what it is God wants for my life.”

 We fight in 4 arenas

We want to fight for our walk with God –  The enemy is going to try and destroy in every man, his relationship with God.  He doesn’t want us to be come a man of the Word and a man of prayer.  You were created for relationship with God.  The best gift we can give to the next generation is to become a “man after God’s own heart” = a man of the Word and a man of prayer.  That is going to take a fight because no one is rewarding us men carving out time to become students of God, becoming immersed in the Word, to learn the Word of God so we can live it and pass it on to our children.  Our call is to raise up our children in the Word of God, not default that to our wives.

We want to fight for our heart and our character –  Proverbs 22:1 says, “A good name is more desirable than great riches.  To be esteemed is better than silver or gold.”  Survey humanity and culture and you’ll see that silver and gold is way more important than being esteemed.  For most men, great riches would be an easy choice over a good name.  We know we must fight for our heart and our character.  David honorable but he was still subject to temptation and so am I.  If you don’t believe that, you’re deceived and very vulnerable.  Bathsheba came along, and every man knows exactly how David fell.  James 1:14 – “Each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed.  Then, after his desire has conceived it, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full grown, gives birth to death.”

Lust is in the heart of all men – lust for her, for power, for money, prestige, vengeance.  In this fight, there is something about having other men around you who can help you overcome these temptations when they come towards you.

We want to fight for our family –  We are providers and protectors.  We’re good at.  It’s what we do but we are also the fountain for the approval and worth that our family so desperately need.  Ephesians 5 – “Love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” At the heart of every woman is a desire for a man that is a protector and provider and a source of approval for her and encourager in her life.  Our families need more than financial deposits.  They need emotional deposits as well.  They need to know we love them, we like them, we think about them, we want to be with them and we want to help them fulfill their dreams.

We fight for our brother –  Ecclesiastes 4:12 – “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves but a chord of three strands is not easily broken.”  Help your brother fight to become the man he wants to be.  Brothers in war.  Transparency is crucial.  100% honesty.  Your success is dependent on how transparent and honest you will be.

It won’t work to get together to talk about work, talk about our family, talk about temptation, talk about lust … and not be honest.  You hold all the cards.  Unless you’re willing to put all your cards down on the table, you’re not going to make it to the ultimate destiny.

There hasn’t been one book ever written about the lone, one man who won the battle, by himself, against all the enemies coming against a man’s heart.  But there are enough books to fill this room of all the men who fell trying to fight against all the enemies in a man’s heart.

It’s going to take brotherhood and it’s going to take vulnerability.

Fight Club 2 – Fathered by God

Here is the clip from Louie Giglio.  We started at 27:30 minutes in …

Here are the slides – Which Kingdom – Fight Club 2

To be a great father, I must understand that I have a great Father.  I am a beloved son of a perfect Father.

The enemy’s plan is to isolate you because that’s when you’re at your weakest and to insulate you, so you can then refuse to deal with the issues that are most important in your life.

A man who says, “I’m good.  I’m fine.  It’s under control” and says, “and there are certain things, I just won’t talk about” – that man, has isolated and insulated himself.  He’s a prime target for the enemy.

We all want the approval of our Dad’s – or we did when we were kids.  That desire is woven deep within us.  There is something about the approval of a dad that can’t be met in any other way.

The enemy knows this and will try to crack our perception of our earthly dad and thus, our perception of our eternal Father.

It’s hard to be a “man after God’s own heart” if the most important man in your life wasn’t after your heart.

Most men you know… are still striving for their father’s approval – or – striving to disprove their Dad who said he’d never amount to anything, never measure up, never be anything important or who was just silent.  This is hard for most men to admit because the pain is layered down deep.

Ephesians 5:1 – “Be imitators of God as dearly loved children”

For a lot of us, we’ve got a box full of parts but no picture of what a man is supposed to look like.  We never had a Dad, or our Dad was too busy, too successful, too dysfunctional or too disinterested.

Yes, Jesus healed the sick and raised the dead and He did go to Calvary and die on the cross as a sacrifice for us, so we could be forgiven and set free – but – God loved Him before He did any of that.  Jesus moved from the Father’s acceptance not for the Father’s acceptance.

We can do great things, build great things, lead great things, leave a great legacy and do what men do but not “so that” we get someone’s approval but because we already have the greatest approval anyone could ever want.

I want to be an imitator of God as a dearly loved child.

As men, we all long for one thing and that is to know we are the son of a father who takes delight in us, who sees us, who wants to be involved in our story and who wants to affirm us because we are His.  We all want that.

Every real life struggle we face as men is all in Ephesians 5.  But it starts with being “dearly loved children”.

Christ fought to the finish and fought to the death for you!

There is No shadow you won’t light up.

No mountain You won’t climb up.

No wall You won’t kick down.

No lie You won’t tear down

… coming after me.

You ARE a beloved son of the Father.  He delights in YOU.  Believe that today.