Look forward

Last week’s session prompted some pain and regret in some of our men around the missed opportunities or failures in family. We talked about family as our vocation – that if things are not right at home, they will not be right in our world.  There were some men whose takeaway from that gathering was that they had really messed up in their family.

We trust God in this process.  If you grieve over your family and missed opportunities – so be it.  Grieve that.  Butmove forward.  The past is the past.  I mentioned Dabo Swinney last week, here is what he said.  If you struggled with last week’s gathering, I want you to listen to this and pretend he is talking to you about the pain of your past with your family …

“Whenever we walk into our team room, win, or lose, there is always a gigantic picture of a windshield with a small rear-view mirror.  That’s always the first thing they see.  What matters is what is next out there in front of us.  We need to keep our dreams bigger than our memories.  The rearview mirror is very small.  If we’re always looking in it, always looking backwards, focusing on past, we’re going to crash.  Great players don’t look back.  They attack what is next.  Enjoy the journey.  Love what you do.  Failures and mistakes in the past?  No one cares.  Won a championship?  That was last year.  Touchdowns don’t carry over to the next game.  Screwed up last week, fix it and look forward.  It is what is next in your life – the windshield – that matters, not the past.”

As if I needed further convincing that we needed fortifying here, the next day, I picked up a devotional and it started with this …

Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it?

Isaiah 43:18-19

Don’t look back. God is doing a new thing in you and in your family. Look for it. The windshield is a LOT bigger than the rearview mirror. Men, be encouraged.  You messed up in your family.  Every single man reading this has those wounds to one degree or another.  God is in your future.  He does not condemn your past.  Past is past.  There is a lot of life left for you and your children and your grandchildren. 

That devotional also said, “Living in the past, fixing our attention on it, is a recipe for disaster. Something new is happening, and whether we like it or not, we need to be present for it. Furthermore, the new thing always requires new attitudes and habits that the lazy would rather not develop. Isaiah tells us not to look back. We are to forget our former way of life and even the things God used to do. He isn’t a God of the past; He is a God of the present and the future. We must train our eyes to see the new springs of life He is bringing forth.”

Look forward.  Live forward.  Behold I am doing a new thing.

3 Replies to “Look forward”

  1. Great word of encouragement to men. We can get up and move forward. John Maxwell teaches if we fail to fail forward. Thank you Richard for building up men.

  2. Paul instructed us…”fogetting thise things which are behind…let us run with patience the race that is set before us”….
    We dont LIVE in our past,only today and then tomorrow…..

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