here are the slides from this morning > Fear and hiding
Fear generally stems from three areas in our lives –
1) we were raised in a fearful environment by fearful parents … always worried about what could go wrong. That spirit of fear was planted in us and we find ourselves today as worried about life as our parents were. And… we find that this fear paralyzes us into a corner of seeking safety above any risk. The “fear of fear itself” is debilitating.
2) control – we were probably raised in a controlling environment by controlling parents and their obsessive desire to control every outcome has taken root in us and as a kid growing up in that environment, we did our own thing to rebel from the control and find our freedom. Oftentimes, that led to heartache of our own doing. Or maybe, it has nothing to do with our parents. Maybe, it is personal choices we made that brought on a lot of pain and somewhere along the way, we made an agreement to never be exposed again and so to accomplish that, we set out to radically control every possible outcome in our lives. Whenever we sense there is something out of our control, fear rushes in. Anxiety comes. Anger follows. We must have our way.
3) concealment – hiding. We hide. We’ve sinned, we’ve messed up and rather than confess it and release it, we hide it. Bury it. Pretend it didn’t happen. Brush it off. Pose. Put on the mask that we don’t struggle, we have it all figured out, we don’t fear, we aren’t vulnerable, we didn’t make that mistake, it didn’t happen. And then… it happens again. The temptation rushes back to try it again. The lies follow of “no one will know”, “all your buddies are looking at porn”, or “you’ve got this under control, a few drinks every night won’t hurt”. Rather than admit we’re weak, tempted or might have a problem, we stuff it down, rinse and repeat. The cycle continues. We bury ourselves further into the lies of “I’ve got this under control, no one needs to know about this” and then, the enemy pounds you with condemnation. The big fear is “What if I am exposed? What if everyone found out who the real me is?” THAT giant must fall.
The enemy thrives in the darkness. He never wants you to confess. Giving into fear is expressing faith in the enemy. Speaking of your weaknesses, your failures, your mistakes, owning them, coming clean, dropping the mask of the poser who has it all figured out … THAT is faith in the Lord. As believers in Christ, why do we hide? What do we have to hide? What do we have to fear? If we believe and profess our faith in Christ and believe in the power of the Cross and the healing of the resurrection … why would we ever again need to hide?
You may suffer from all three of the above. You may have posed all your life. You may have bought the lie that it is too late for you to change. I’m telling you that right now, right this very moment as you read this, your life can turn completely around this very second. Right now… the giant of fear can fall in your life. The poser can die. It is never too late to be authentic. In fact, it is in defiance of tyranny that you can stand right where you are, close your eyes, throw your hands up and confess your sins and lay them at the foot of the Cross. Today … you can leave all that behind and in so doing, experience a sweet freedom you thought you’d never again experience. You cannot slay the giant of fear on your own. Some of this roots back to how you were raised as a kid and the patterns are baked into your life for 40,50 or 60 years. But … Jesus. Jesus can slay that giant right now, this very minute. You can begin the process of letting go of your past and how you were raised and you can let go of the fear that consumes you and runs you life and you can let the Lord Jesus run your life from today forward. You can let go of trying to control every future outcome and live today, for today trusting God with just today. Will you surrender? Will you give it all up today and drop the old self, the old patterns, the old failures and lay it all at the Cross?